3 things a stomach bug taught me about chronic illness

This week I learnt 3 truths about chronic illness I never want to forget…

Uncomfortable, rather depressing, but half a week later and I was over it and back at work.

But something had changed. While I was unwell I learned three very important truths about chronic illness – and I don’t want to ever forget them. Continue reading “3 things a stomach bug taught me about chronic illness”

Do you laugh at misfortune?

“Just laugh or you’ll go mad.”

It’s advice I hear in hospital corridors and grocery stores. In this era of ‘political correctness’ there are a surprising number of opportunities to snigger at the antics of dementia patients, our children’s disobedience, or someone else’s misfortune. So where do we draw the line?

Today I’m guest posting over at Paradigm Shift, so head on over to continue reading this post. It addresses an issue which is particularly pertinent to us as Watchers!

Should we use labels?


‘Don’t restrain me.’

‘Labels are limiting.’

‘We shouldn’t put people in boxes.’

‘Everything is fluid.’

‘Categorizing someone stops them reaching their full potential.’

We don’t like labels. Talk to anyone who is in tune with the 21st century about political correctness and common courtesy and phrases like the above will arise.

Yet it has been blatantly obvious from the very beginning that I have fixed a very firm label on myself and others on this blog. It is even in the title!

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Can good come out of bad? – A Personal Journey

A few weeks ago I did a talk for a Cancer Council morning tea on living when you can’t see God working and my own personal story about waiting for Him to fulfill His promises and bring something good out of chronic illness.

It’s not a neat, polished story, tied up with perfect conclusion, because real life isn’t like that. But it’s my story, and all I have to offer. Here is the transcript: 

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Cupcakes beautifully made and lovingly gifted by a lady at the Tea.

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Long-distance Watching (Part 1)

Perhaps we have always lived far away from our Loved One, and we want to know if we are actually a Watcher. Perhaps we used to co-reside with them, and due to circumstances or choice we have recently moved a distance away and are struggling. Or maybe we’d actually prefer to live elsewhere and wonder what that will look like in terms of Watching. Possibly the opportunity has arisen for us to move closer and we’re not sure whether this will be a wise move.

These questions are difficult and important.

How do we Watch when we live far away from our Loved One? Is it possible?

This is Part 1 of a two-part series focused on “Watching from a distance”.


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Short or long term thinking?

Short vs. Long term thinking

‘Don’t think of now, focus on the future.’

‘Don’t worry, one day it won’t be like this.’

We have all been given this advice, offered it to others, or proscribed it to ourselves. But surely we have also done the same with the following:

‘Just take one day at a time.’

‘Don’t think of the future, concentrate on the now.’

Yet which stance is right? Which advice should we take?


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Idealism or Pessimism?

Should we be idealistic or pessimistic?

If we are idealistic we hate pessimism (and vice versa)

It happens. We are feeling over the moon with joy – bubbly about life, hopeful about the future. Yet the person next to us is cynical. They sigh and shake their head and otherwise communicate that we are mad.

It irritates us. We want to shake them. Can’t they see the sun is shining? Can’t they see that however painful life is at the moment, it is life and it’s beautiful?

Or perhaps we are the one feeling down. All we can see are the troubles and trials that are crouching on the horizon, ready to billow into our lives. Our Loved One’s suffering is just too much, and there is no relief on hand. To our disbelief and possibly anger, the person beside us can’t seem to control their giggles. They (inadvertently) tease our sadness and spout enumerable things to be ‘thankful for’.

But it doesn’t help and internally we shake our fists. Can’t they go away and be happy elsewhere?

When someone’s emotional state is at odds with our own, we judge them. We grumble at their ‘shallowness’ or their ‘pessimism’.


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