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A letter to the parents who are chronically ill (You are not a failure)

“You are not your illness.”

My mum has a chronic illness. She’s been sick for as long as I can remember. Mum, this letter is for you.

Dear Parent with a chronic illness,

You don’t have to say it aloud. I’ve read it in your sighs, your looks, your actions.

The confession. The apology.

My sickness has damaged the happiness of my child.

I, who brought them into the world, who had all these plans, these hopes – have been able to do one percent of all I dreamed.

I wasn’t the one to bake with them, to take them to the beach, to bushwalk, to laugh – someone else did these things, and sometimes, no one did them.

Am I a failure?

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“I’m fine, don’t worry about me!” (Watchers, we are not Saints)

We’re not doing the gospel any favours by trying to be perfect

“I’m okay.”

“I’ve got this.”

“Honestly, it’s fine, I promise.”

Sometimes it’s easy to forget that we are only a Watcher, and instead begin to think that we are (or should be) a “saint”.

This is what it looks like:

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My son is ill and in jail (Mary’s story)

“I am fully reliant on Christ.  Maybe that’s what he was trying to bring me to.” 

It’s time… for the second interview with another watcher.

The blog series Another Watcher’s Story is a compilation of interviews with other people just like us who are in a relationship with someone suffering from a chronic illness, mental or physical. They may or may not be in an official caregiving role, but they have a unique tale to tell.

The purpose of this blog is to remind us that we are not alone.

May this interview be an encouragement that there are others out there too, struggling to love and seeking to give, all the while figuring out what it looks like to do exactly that.

So without further ado, let me introduce Mary. Her son suffers from Bipolar, Tourette’s, Anxiety, Autism and Dysgraphia, and her Dad struggles with TIA’s (multiple strokes).

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Prayer, Chronic Illness and Healing (Part 2)

Sometimes even Jesus wasn’t answered when He prayed…


The Bible has some pretty in-your-face things to say about prayer and healing. Jesus, as He walked on this earth prayed some big prayers.

But where do these truths fit in my life when my loved ones are not healed however much I pray?

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Planning your own future when you have a chronically ill family member

Just because a door slams shut does not mean it is locked…

Sooner or later all of us want to look into the future. The time comes when we need to sit down with pen and paper and plan out our next few years. The problem with doing this as a Watcher is that chronic illness extends into the future too! It’s a big part of our life and we can’t ignore it or naively pretend that it will simply ‘go away’.

How then do we plan our future, keeping in mind our Loved One’s chronic illness?

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What I’ve been reading about Chronic Illness & Life January 2018 (and what you’ve read too!)

Practical tips and personal reminders – I’ve found a few of them this month!

There is So. Much. Stuff on the internet! How do you know what’s worth a read? Recommendations of course – here’s 5 articles I’ve appreciated this past month and what I’ve learnt from them:

What I’ve been reading January 2018

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How to love children with chronically ill parents

How often do we remember the children?

Most of us know someone who struggles with their health. Perhaps they’ve been diagnosed with a physical chronic illness, or they struggle daily with their mental health. As their friend, we seek to love and serve them in their suffering.

But how often do we remember their children?

Helen recently shared her story of caring for her chronically ill daughter – and now it’s time to think about what it’s like when the situation is reversed…

What about the children whose parents are chronically ill?

Three ways children can suffer when their parent is chronically ill:

READ MORE (first published on the Glorious Table as a guest post)

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//Do you know what it’s like to be a child of a chronically ill parent? If so, I’d love to hear your story!