Why we need to tell our chronically ill friend the truth (even if it hurts)

‘I fight every day with my chronically ill friend.’ – is that ever okay to admit?

Have you ever been hurt by someone? I have.

When it happens there are two things I want to do. I want to tell them they were in the wrong… and I want to tell someone else what occurred.

But what happens when it’s my chronically ill family member or friend who has hurt me?

Am I allowed to rebuke them?

And is it right to tell other people?
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I think I hate my chronically ill family member

Chronic illness always affects relationships… but is it wrong to hate a sick person?

I hate my chronically ill family member

Have you ever thought the above sentence? Maybe not in those words. Substitute ‘hate’ for one of these:


Frustrated at

Disapprove of

Am annoyed at

Would like to strangle

Does the sentence ring true for you now? Has it ever? If so, this post is for you.

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What I learnt when I cried in church

I cried and ran out of church… only to find laughter.

We’ve looked at why it’s okay to cry in public and also how to respond. Now this is my story…

My story of public grief (and what it taught me about God and chronic illness)

I hesitate to share this. It’s personal. It’s ‘deep’… and this is in itself is normally an indicator that I shouldn’t post it on the World Wide Web.

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How to cope with grief in a public place

It’s one thing to say it’s ok to cry, and quite another to know what to do when you start crying!

I like practical answers. If something uncomfortable has to happen, I want to know how I can fix it (or, preferably, avoid it). And so, fellow Watchers, what do we do when we find ourselves crying in church?

Is this a silly question?

What do I do when I find myself crying? Is this even a question that needs to be answered? I think it is.

Why? Because weeping in public is not a common occurrence in Western culture. We generally try to avoid it – and so when we weep in public it is because we are overcome with grief. Tears take us by surprise; we are unprepared.

And personally, I’d rather not be. So let’s think about it now, before we find ourselves in that situation. What should we do when we find ourselves overcome with emotion in public place?

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What to do when someone you love has a chronic illness and you are too young

Sometimes your age can make loving someone challenging…

When someone we love receives a chronic illness diagnosis, it is easy to feel helpless.

This is magnified when you are “young”. After all, you can’t offer lifts to doctors’ appointments and you can’t be there all the time, because you have to go to school.

Perhaps your offers to help aren’t taken seriously, or people overlook you in the mad rush to help your sick family member.

What do you do when you are too young to love?…

This post was first published on The Rebelution. Read the rest here!

(Image courtesy of original publication).


Why I think it’s okay to grieve in church

Crying in a public place? You should avoid that. No one wants streaked mascara…

Grieving in front of people is not something we’re particularly good at in my culture. Weeping often happens behind closed doors, or in the arms of a loved one. Yet when a diagnosis of chronic illness enters our lives, or the lives of our family members, it’s impossible to avoid public places, and often just as impossible to avoid tears!

As Christians, church is a public sphere where we may find it hard to contain our grief. But should we be trying?

I don’t think so.

4 Reasons we grieve chronic illness in public

1. We grieve chronic illness in public because we care

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3 things a stomach bug taught me about chronic illness

This week I learnt 3 truths about chronic illness I never want to forget…

Uncomfortable, rather depressing, but half a week later and I was over it and back at work.

But something had changed. While I was unwell I learned three very important truths about chronic illness – and I don’t want to ever forget them. Continue reading “3 things a stomach bug taught me about chronic illness”